Watch: “My gay son is part of me – how can I shun him?” Louisa Grech

“I prayed a lot when I started realising that my son was gay, because… he took his time to tell me, believe me!” Louisa Grech told Newsbook.com.mt, “I really prayed.”

Louisa is the coordinator of Drachma Parents Group – Malta, a group of Catholic parents of LGBTQI+ persons offering support and a safe space which welcomes and embraces parents, relatives and friends of persons who are LGBTQI+.  

You can’t just turn the switch off and say, ‘get out of my life because I can’t accept you because you’re gay’

“He is part of me. A very big part of me. You carry them around in your pregnancy, you feel them, you love them… you can’t just turn the switch off and say, ‘get out of my life because I can’t accept you because you’re gay’. That’s doesn’t work, does it? I definitely could not come to terms on that level,” Louisa says,

The more Louisa prayed, the more she says she started to realise that God was telling her: “My son is also in his image and likeness; he is his son like I am his daughter and my duty was to keep on loving him… Who am I to judge? Who am I to tell him don’t be who you are; live who I want you to be? That’s stupid… that’s really stupid.”

Tell him that you love him, because you’ve loved him all your life, and you need to continue loving him

Louisa says she knows first-hand how big the shock is for parents whose children decided to come out to them.

“I know that, sometimes, we react very impulsively, so if your son or daughter come to you and tell you, ‘I’m gay’, I think the best thing really and truly is to bite your tongue and just hug him and tell him that you love him, because you’ve loved him all your life, and you need to continue loving him.”

Drachma Parents’ Group – Malta may be contacted via Facebook, email: drachmaparents@gmail.com or tel. no: 9945 4581.