How to be a supportive partner / Snapwire

One of the best feelings in the world is having a supportive partner to help you get over a difficult period.

Being supportive does not mean doing anything for your partner that makes you uncomfortable. It does not also necessarily mean that you need to try and solve your partner’s issues.

Part of being supportive is to be really present and a good listener, to not constantly stand in judgment, and actually to have a sincere and caring disposition. To really hear and understand what the other person is communicating and not allowing our own stuff to get in the way.

When someone truly loves and supports you, they will challenge you, stand beside you when you need them, and give you space to be yourself and grow as a person.

Sometimes things go wrong in life, but despite our busy schedules, it is important to look at how you can support each other better each day.

Here are seven tips that can help you nourish each other’s heart through giving support:

  • Be respectful to your partner’s feelings. If your partner is dealing with a disappointment, let him or her know that you are available to talk. Sometimes it is also helpful to give them some space to process their feelings first.
  • Listen deeply to what your partner is saying. Knowing that you are being heard, especially when the world is upside down, feels very nurturing. It also heals all wounds and prevents misunderstanding.
  • Speak in a loving tone. Speaking in a sincere and caring tone will let your loved one feel safe and heard. Gently communicate your feelings so you both know the real deal and so you can determine how to help one another.
  • Give small gifts. This could break the ice and lift up his or her mood. Little surprises go a long way.
  • Let your partner know that you love him or her. Saying “I love you” is very reassuring and could definitely lift the other to a higher ground.
  • Offer encouraging words. Your positive words may help your partner to take that first step.
  • Be affectionate and open.

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